Guide for Writing Your Life Story Your life story should include all of the following and ANYTHING and EVERYTHING else you find pertinent and important. The more info you write, the easier the home study process will be! This guide is based on the Family Assessment format.
Growing up: Where were you born? Who are your parents? Tell us about your mother and father. Describe your mother and father’s personalities. What values did they teach you? How are you like you’re your parents? How do you describe their marriage/relationship? Where do your parents live and how often do you have contact with them? How were disputes handled? What did your parents do for a living? How were you disciplined?
With whom did you live growing up? What are the names and ages of your siblings? Describe your relationship with your parents and siblings. Where are they now and how often do you have contact?
Where did you grow up? Did you experience any moves? If so, what was the adjustment period like? How old were you? Where did you most enjoy living? Why?
Did you enjoy school? What kind of student were you? What type of activities were you involved in? What were your parents’ expectations of your school performance? What is the highest level of education you completed? What did you do when you finished high school?
Describe any significant childhood events. What type of things did your family do together? Do you recall any special vacations, outings, etc.? How were holidays and birthdays celebrated?
Was there any alcohol or drug involvement in your family? If so, who, when? Was there any domestic violence? Were you ever sexually, physically, or emotionally abused?
Describe your career choices, employment history and current occupation. Do you enjoy your current job?
Marriage/Relationships: Have you been in any significant/long term relationships?
Have you been married/in a long term relationship with anyone other than your current spouse? Describe each marriage/relationship (when, how long, and to whom). How long did you know your spouse/partner before you were married? How did you meet? What attracted you to him or her? If divorced, why did the marriage end? Have you seen or considered seeing a marriage/relationship counselor? What do you do for fun as a couple?
Do you have children? Tell us about your children. Describe their personalities, interests, etc. How do they feel about your decision to foster or adopt?
What do you like about yourself? What are your strengths? What would you like to change about yourself? What are your hobbies, interests? What community activities are you involved in? What are some challenges you have faced as an adult? How were you able to work through the situation? What has been your greatest sense of accomplishment? What losses have you experienced and how did you cope with your losses? Have you had any involvement with drugs or alcohol? Did you seek treatment? Have you ever sought counseling? Are you currently experiencing any health problems? If single, are you currently dating anyone? Do you have plans to marry in the future?
Your family now:What are your responsibilities in the family? How are responsibilities, chores, etc., divided among family members? What do you do for fun? How do you celebrate holidays and birthdays? Who are the family friends that you spend time with? How do you reach decisions as a family? What are some of your household rules? What are some household rules that can not be broken?
Parenting practices:What do you believe your role as a parent consists of? What are your discipline methods? What values do you wish to teach your children?
Current situation: Describe a typical day in your household (what time do you leave for work, who takes the kids to school, when you return, do you eat dinner together, etc). What changes would you have to make to accommodate a foster/adoptive child? Describe your home and neighborhood.
Background checks:Is your driver’s license in good standing? Have you had any speeding violations? Has your license ever been suspended? If so, please explain. Have you ever been arrested? If so, please explain. What have you learned from this experience and how has your life changed since then? Please include records even if they have been expunged or the case was dropped. Have you ever had a restraining order or an injunction for protection filed against you? Have you filed one against someone else? Please explain. Please answer the same “background checks” questions listed above for anyone else that lives in your home (ex. Child, partner, roommate, etc).
Viewpoint of families:Why are you interested in fostering and/or adopting? What are your thoughts, feelings, opinions, attitudes and beliefs regarding maltreatment? What do you think of people who abuse/neglect their kids? How do you feel about working in partnership with birth parents? How do your children feel about fostering/adopting?
I hope this is helpful, please feel free to talk to me if you have questions, comments or need any clarification!! Good Luck!